If you have been watching my posts for any length of time, you will have noticed that this year has been major for life events digging up old emotions and providing opportunities for us to heal. The last couple of weeks has been no exception, and it has given me an opportunity to focus on some of the aspects of emotional pain that does not often get examined as much as it should.
During the course of our lives, whether it be in early childhood, or during our adult life, at some point we will encounter deep emotional pain. It’s not that we actively seek it, but by virtue of the fact that we as humans are emotional beings, it is going to happen, and unless we learn to become aware of it, it is often the case that this pain will effect us and shape some part of the rest of our lives.
Part of the reason that these emotions effect us to this extent is beyond the fact that pain that deep is a significant indicator of loss, but more than that, beyond the emotional pain there is also a physical reaction that builds itself into the cells of our body as well. Emotional pain is difficult enough as it is, so we often bury it and try to move past it. But with the chemical/hormonal reaction programmed into our cells, even years later when we may have forgotten the original trigger, a similiar event may trigger the body and brain to begin to react before we even know what is happening or why we feel upset.
Learning to pay attention to our bodies, and our reactions, whether we are physically feeling like something is wrong even when our outside stimuli says everything is fine is a great way to determine if we have old unresolved trauma that still needs to be healed. If we can determine where our physical discomfort originated we can focus on the event, what caused the pain, bring it to the forefront and deal with the emotional trauma in a safe environment we can learn to let go of our pain and our reactive patterns to bring forth the emotional healing from damage that may have held us back in moving forward on our path in life.
This is what we have been doing in the Den most recently. There have been significant events that have brought out old issues, and old pain. We have spent quite a bit of time sorting out where the initial trauma was created so we could face it, deal with it and let go of the pain. Now those issues are lessened, if not gone completely and we are letting go and ready to move forward with new chapters in our lives.