Little Challenges

So my husband and I have both been trying to make changes in our lives.  He’s recently given up Facebook, and I’m not far behind (I’m giving up the personal one only, the professional one will still exist.).  We’ve given up any and all pay internet tv (we already don’t have cable or satellite).  Then he came up with a new challenge early this week.  And while it didn’t last long, it did have a great effect.

The idea was this:  to go until the end of the week and not talk to each other unless it was about something necessary to run the household.  No, this was not “we’re in a fight and we’re not talking because we’re upset.”  Instead this was, “let’s not distract ourselves with using too many words and focus on what we are thinking, feeling, etc and why are we doing so.”  It was, in many ways, the ultimate magnifying glass for ourselves.

And while the challenge only lasted one day, it was more than enough to show us just how much we talk just to hear ourselves talk, but also so that we cover up the voices that our constantly chattering inside our heads.  Little challenges like teaching ourselves to not talk unless necessary is a phenomenal way to be more observant in every other aspect of our lives.

Doing a challenge such as this also has other benefits.  While we didn’t make it the whole week without speaking, by the end of the week our conversations were less superficial and much more in depth than we have had in a long time.  It’s helped us to reconnect on a deep level that we haven’t done in a long time.

This isn’t an exercise that you have to do only with a spouse, or long-term partner.  You can do this at anytime, with anyone.  It doesn’t even take multiple people (though the experience will be much more fulfilling with a focused group setting the same intention).  You can choose to do this totally on your own just to learn to focus more, and pay more attention to small details in every day life.

For me, I intend to continue to talk less and try and pay attention more.  I also intend to set up the challenge again, and see if we can carry it through a longer period of time.  I’m looking forward to enjoying the silence.

Author: Preacher Lady

Shannon is an Esoteric Minister and a Pagan High Priestess. She has over 20 years in customer service, and her Associates in Journalism. She has been researching Spirituality, Self-Empowerment, Healthy Living & Organics, Psychology, Sociology and Philosophy most of her life, and teaches from personal experience. Shannon loves reading, writing, traveling and just about anything creative. She and her husband are currently building The Warriors Den in the desert southwest.

3 thoughts

  1. I congratulate you on a marriage so open and proactively accommodating to inner growth. Personally, I live in silence. In my home there is no TV or radio, no pet, plant or other person with whom I feel I must make constant conversation. The result has been an average of two new works and a dozen posts per day for the last year. If I could ever find a partner who could accommodate these practices I would be as happy as you doubtless are, my dear. It makes me happy to know about you two. Happiest of Holidays and brightest of New Years to you.

    Oh, and I’m reblogging this to my sister site Timeless Wisdoms

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    1. Ana, he and I were friends for 10 years before we became a couple, and some of what I heard even then was pearls of wisdom. I still call it “basking in the glory of…” We tried to base our relationship on Spirituality and personal growth. Had a few missteps along the way (who hasn’t?”, but always found our way back because we were so willing to put ourselves aside and help each other. If it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t be a minister, nor would I have the blog. Happy Holidays to you as well, and I’m looking forward to our conversations in the new year!


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