Today, after several days, I am grateful to say that things are back on track and better than ever. Last week we had several difficult moments and situations that arose, and it took some time, but we have taken the necessary time and acknowledged our feelings and moved through the difficult moments, healing old wounds and allowing judgements to pass by.
When an unexpected, emotionally charged situation arrives, our first reaction is always hard to get through. The chemicals our body creates often makes it hard to see any truth in the situation, and all we can feel is the pain of the moment. Most people (in my experience) never move past this point. We are programmed mentally and emotionally to hold onto that pain and make it part of our identity. We feel wronged in some way, even if that isn’t the case.
Over time, a few days, perhaps a few weeks, as we move past the shock we felt in the initial moments, we gain the opportunity to see the emotionally charged situation in a different, broader scope. We can move past the initial shock and emotional trauma and see details about the situation in a less charged mental state. Where we initially saw loss, perhaps we now can see that in the wider scope, we never lost anything.
In situations where we are not immediately and directly involved, we also can move past the sense of pain and realize that no matter what the situation is, under no circumstances can we know all of the details that occurred. We may have lost someone we knew in the past, but if we were not there at the time of the whatever circumstances happened, it is impossible for us to know why things happened the way we did. Only the person(s) directly involved can know what happened, and only they can judge the actions they took at the time. It is not fair or appropriate to judge the situation outside that.
This is where many people have great difficulty. We live in a society that has taught us to live by our emotions and hold onto our pain; we are taught to hold onto our drama, and even we are not directly involved, we need to feel that we are a part of the situation by extension of how we feel. These are things that are irrelevant to the things that matter, and by holding onto them we often cause damage and emotional pain for someone else. By letting go of our emotions and seeing the situation in an unbiased light, we can often find truths that we were not willing to see in the initial moment of shock.
By allowing ourselves to acknowledge our pain, and move through it, by processing the truths of what is, not how we want things to be, we can grow and learn. We can be Spiritual, and help both ourselves, and others, to heal and learn to be loving in the worst of situations when we need it the most.