Imagine what life would be like if we didn’t have to worry about schedules, birthdays, holidays, meetings…. How nice would that be? I can tell you, that it is very nice. When my husband and I got serious and moved in together, that was one of the biggest changes in my life. I am grateful that it happened, and I have no regrets.
In my former life, I celebrated holidays, stressed over Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, family plans, social plans, work schedules, etc. Just like everyone else, I was always trying to do the “right” thing, and fulfill all of these obligations, without time to enjoy them. I complained about them, and talked about not doing them, and kept doing them anyway to keep everyone happy.
Now, if we want to celebrate, we celebrate. Just because. We don’t take a special day. In fact, more often than not, he’s working the holiday which lessens the time we spend on that day specifically. So in our house, it’s simple. It’s another day. If I’m going to cook a special dinner it’s because I have time, and choose to because I want to. I do it for enjoyment, not for expectation.
Since we stopped celebrating holidays, and just started celebrating, the stress in our lives has decreased drastically as far as having to fulfill someone else’s expectations. We enjoy the time we spend together more, and by stressing less, and making no plans, we have gained the biggest gift of all…Time.